Celebrating a Divorce With a Party - Noticed
The occasion? Their pending divorce.
The event isn’t likely to approach the extravagance of their wedding party less than three years ago, when they invited 200 guests to a seated dinner at the Four Seasons restaurant in the Seagram Building. The first-time bride wore an off-white, long silk gown by Angel Sanchez, and guests danced to the music of Peter Duchin.
Still, the party has engraved invitations with a request for business attire and an effusive statement about the couple’s affection for each other. It is signed, “Fondly, Bonnie and Charles.”
Some of those invited have found the whole idea odd.
Mr. Bronfman, the former chairman of the Seagram Company, and Mrs. Bronfman, an architect, explained that their “friendship is stronger without being married” and that they wanted to thank their friends for the support. On the invitation, they wrote [...]
I'm all for it. A party wouldn't be my style, but if Dude and I were ever to get divorced we'd approach it with the same attitude. We love people when we marry them. What changes to cause divorce isn't usually so much that we don't love them anymore (that's rare), but that our lifestyles/attitudes/choices are no longer compatible or never were. We find ways to convince ourselves that the love is gone because that's the only socially-acceptable way to justify ending our marriages, the unfortunate result of which is too often that we not only sacrifice our own integrity as we build some mythology of evil around someone we once saw as our lifelong partner, but also that any children involved are caught between warring factions. It's ugly, and I'm glad to see that it's becoming more fashionable to keep the love, just end the marriage (or in cases where affairs are involved admit that we can and often do love more than one person and it might not be so horrible for that to be okay; in this case that doesn't seem to be a factor).
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