The beatings must stop./Thanks, Julie :)
It’s no secret that I believe in the importance of self acceptance. For many, this brings up a lot of fears about what will happen if they decide to love and accept themselves. Many overweight women believe that to love and accept their body means that they have to give up on weight loss.
But what I want you to know is that accepting yourself first does not mean giving up on yourself.
It means the opposite.
When you love something, you take care of it. You show up for it. You honor it. You put it on your list of priorities. You do the work.
This means eating when you are hungry. Stopping when you’re full. Bathing. Moving joyfully. Resting when you are tired. Giving yourself some space. Feeling your feelings. Changing your beliefs and thoughts.
And when you do those things, lasting change is not only possible – it is inevitable.
In the beginning, the idea of doing all of that can be overwhelming.
Trust me, I know.
But I also know that in order to truly care for yourself and your body, you have to stop beating yourself up. Permanent change happens through love, not hate.
You cannot beat yourself into love.
This includes beating yourself up about beating yourself up.
Stop it.
Seriously.
The only way to stop it is to begin by noticing the ways in which you do it. Begin to notice the things you say to yourself. Notice how you feel and behave when you beat yourself up. Ask yourself if you would speak to your best friend or a small child that way.
Just notice.
Noticing is the first step. Always.
Agreed, 100%.
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